Your friends are the constant in your life.
They know the parts of you that take years to learn. Or worse, what if he absolutely loves your friends and the feeling is mutual? It is about making sure you like him enough to share a meal again before he gets you naked.
Having sex too soon can cheapen a first date into nothing more than a long-winded hookup. The boundaries of dating versus just sleeping together are easy to cross. So if you are looking for something more than his Tuesday night regular, wait a beat before hitting the sheets. This may seem like a no-brainer, but so many young gay men will often stretch the truth in order to please the handsome stranger across the table.
Maybe you lie about how much you like to watch sports or pretend to know about whatever hipster band he is rambling about. You may think it is harmless to feign interest in the things he cares about, but it is surefire sign that you are not being true to who you are. Any relationship you enter into this way is bound to have cracks of trust that will inevitably grow into craters. When it comes to love and sex, just remember that there are no white lies. Be honest, be open and never apologize for the things that make you who you are.
You should go into every date thinking that if he never wants to go out with you again, he only did you a favor. Be daring in your love life and willing to take the plunge, but never, ever, be desperate for a boyfriend. If you do not know that you are better off being happy by yourself than miserable with the wrong man, then you need to take the time to get to know yourself. Text him something like: As stated above, texting has, somehow, replaced the feeling of longing to see someone in person.
Technology has, once again, played its part and a date can be easily replaced by long blocks of text in a chat conversation. I mean, if you think about it, even sex has been replaced by cyber sex as well. So, if you want to spice things up, you can always do it, but never overdo it because you will just look easy in his eyes and too much of a go-getter.
We all like confident guys but, if you cross the line, you will only look desperate. Keep texting but do not be a texting buddy. Keep it short and make it matter. Fight your urge to text him, believe in yourself, and think about the future. Human beings have the tendency to think short-term but, if you want to have a guy long term, you can sacrifice a week or two, right?
Vanish until he contacts you. When he reaches out, do not respond. Like you were never gone. After a couple of minutes, be sweet. You will get him hooked. Remember when we talked about you not initiating contact? Now that he has looked for you, you need to actually be the conversation starter, but always have a purpose. Send him a meme about something that you two have talked about. Have a purpose and act like something has reminded you of him. Since he has tried and reached out, you need to award him. One text. Short and simple like we explained in tip number 2.
However, you do not have to do this all the time. Just a couple of times can be enough. Then, wait for his move. Gay sexting tips!
It will be hard, and, according to my calculations, it will take about 6 to 10 days until you two establish a healthy communication where you actually give and receive equally. By being cool, polite, fun, and a great company since nobody wants to be close to a negative person, anyway you will get there even sooner. Now that you give him five and you take back five you have to play with his mind once again. Start giving him five and taking back ten. At this point, you want to initiate contact, send him a text about how he is doing and never reply when he asks about you.
Need you ASAP. After some hours have gone by, tell him you were able to figure things out yourself. This way you will make him feel important and unimportant at the same time. Your mixed actions will send mixed signals to his brain and when the human brain feels confused, it starts thinking about the case while trying to figure things out. Or do you?
Luckily, by this point, he will have already started initiating contact more often, calling you as well as making up excuses to see you. It is time to say yes.
Most likely, as a reflex, he will cancel your meeting just hours before your scheduled meeting. Play it cool and reschedule. No big deal, right? When you two meet he will try to put the blame on you about disappearing and a subtle game of power will start to form. Think it this way: You have gone out just to see each other, not to clear out the air. Make sure you two have fun and start acting like a normal person —not like a player— and he will too.
This is where things will start to feel easier and less frustrating. He might as well show his interest towards you. Games have rules, right? You might win, you might lose.
The only risk you are taking here is that his brain, again, might refuse to give into you but he will still think of you as an important person in his life. Yes, you guessed it right. You might end up in the friend zone. Now we are talking about a whole different game you have to play and you can read more about here.