Be honest with your body: Small, petite frames and pelvises just may not be able to accept those of the more well-endowed variety. Be realistic with your goals, and realize that you may need work up to this over several months. Use it or lose it: The key to continued ease of bottoming is to be consistent in using the above dilation methods, even throughout sexual dry spells.
Keep at it so the next experience is a pleasurable one. Engage a specialist: The process to becoming a pro at bottoming can be daunting, but it is totally achievable if you follow the above process. If all else fails, see a specialist in gay sexual health and wellness, who can provide both medical — such as personalized dilation and Botox — and surgical options including anal restoration to help improve results and assist in relaxation of the muscles. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical which has offices in New York and Beverly Hills , has extensive experience educating gay and bi men on health care issues specific to the community, including: All Rights Reserved.
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With practice comes pleasure. Once you get the hang of it, bottoming feels great. Anal sex has just as much risk as vaginal sex for unwanted sexually transmitted infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea, and since HIV is more common among certain populations transgender women of color and men who have sex with men , anal sex poses a higher risk of HIV transmission for these people.
I am also HIV-positive. All sex — bottoming, topping, sucking, handjobs — involves risk. Learning about those risks and taking the necessary steps to minimize them protecting yourself and playing smartly gives you the freedom to enjoy bottoming without fear. Yes they can. My boyfriend leans bottom, and so do I. I love fucking him, and he loves fucking me, but sometimes often we both prefer to get fucked — and we do, by other guys.
Talk about it. Try to make it work. First things first: We will help you.
Enjoy it. Do what feels good.
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